Vibha Sharma Holistic Spiritual Life Coach and Corporate Wellness Coach, new book, “Turn Within”
Vibha Sharma is the founder and a Holistic Spiritual Life Coach, Corporate Wellness Coach and Mindfulness Coach at Cosmicways Holistic Life Coaching. In her powerful new book, “Turn Within” Vibha talks about one of the most prominent delusions of this modern world: that happiness and satisfaction come with a higher rank, fame, or money. “People are so blinded by the worldly pleasures that they spend their whole lives chasing materialistic stuff. They lose themselves in the race of achieving nothing but short-term happiness. To reconcile with inner happiness, we must believe in the real power of connection and magic of spiritual unfoldment.”- Vibha Sharma
Tell us about your new book, “Turn Within: Reconnect with your inner peace and wellbeing.
People think that they cannot have a spiritual life if they have to become successful in their professional and personal life. This thinking is far from reality. The reality is you enjoy your life more when you are connected with the spirit inside, your formless self, your eternal self. A ‘missing link’ that everybody is looking for. However, they are unaware of how easy it is to live a completely contented life even if we have outside challenges.
Your life must have challenges – Professional personal or financial, or you must be somebody who has everything on the human level. If you are not living a peaceful, contented life, it shows your ‘misalignment,’ or deviation from the Divine source. When we connect ourselves daily with that supreme power, even if we have all the tests outside, we still feel safe, guarded, balanced, and peaceful. We need to trace our lives back to connecting to our inner source to get to know the true essence of being alive.
This book will serve the purpose of spreading awareness regarding meditation and the importance of connecting from within. The book will show that spending some quiet time alone adjusts oneself to their inner world, harmony, and peace.
This book is for you if:
· You want to have a more positive outlook on life.
· You are looking for more balance irrespective of the uncertainties of life.
· You want to deal with hostile people and situations staying in your power.
· You want to be in control of your reactions and opinions in most judgmental and disturbing moments.
· You want to develop more self-awareness, self-compassion, and emotional regulation.
· You are looking for a sense of purpose and meaning in your life.
Every now and then, we hear a young student or even successful famous people committing suicide. People like them who are otherwise known as very successful in their lives suffer silently for years. Vibha feels the need to educate more and more people about the daily practice of the quiet time, stillness, centering, and whatever you call it. Not only that, but just connecting with the spirit, higher power, divine to live a more peaceful, blissful life. She is directing women, men, students, kids, professionals, and seniors to cultivate healthy inner life and emphasizing the importance of daily meditation. It is helping them realize that spirituality (Living in spirit/staying centered within) is easy and practical. They can connect to the inner fountain of peace and bliss and transform their lives and people around them.
Turn Within is receiving rave reviews on Amazon.
This is one of the books to read and I love the name: TURN WITHIN. .Vibha has created a book filled with metaphysical thought teachings regardless of your religious beliefs. It is very inspiring and I look forward to the next chapters. The beautiful photos of her in all these historical places jump off the pages and make you want to travel there. It helps you to understand your relationship with God (Source) and why it is so important to pray and meditate to strengthen that connection . As I continue to read it is like a road map to free yourself from all things that are not part of your life’s journey. This book will appeal to different people who believe in spirituality. People that want to move their life into the flow of co-creation,more peace and love starting with loving and acceptance of yourself first – Luzanne Amazon Customer
Turn Within by Vibha Sharma is a beautiful, eloquent read. Vibha distills the teachings of the law of attraction, meditation, and inner purpose into clear and insightful can do steps. I recommend for anyone looking to learn more about connecting with the inner self and identifying areas of growth and well-being. – Amazon Customer
In this stressful time of the pandemic, how important is connecting ourselves with our source/divine self?
Every situation in our life has a purpose. There is a lesson to be learned, a message, an instruction for a new direction, and an action to take. In adverse situations like the COVID-19, we need to embrace acceptance, stay resilient, and extract the best out of them. Locked-down and disconnected, it is easy to feel alone and scared. However, we should consider it an opportunity to spend some quiet time – time to deepen our spiritual practices to nurture ourselves and our souls.
There are many good reasons to connect and strengthen our relationship with our higher self. You can also call it our soul, divine self, our access point to God, Spirit, Infinity, the source daily. When we connect with our higher selves, we experience greater clarity. We can quickly turn away from the distractions and disharmonious energies of the physical world, indulging in the bigger picture and meaning behind outside occurrences.
Developing our connection to the higher power/divine self within helps us overcome difficulties and understand the true essence of our being. It helps us make changes that might be scary and face uncertainty with faith, learn, and adapt to deal with the demands of life and perceive different challenges in a whole new way.
Many researchers have found a strong link between spirituality and medical health. Studies show that patients gained better self-control, faster recovery, improved mental, physical and emotional health, and the overall quality of life when they connected with their spiritual selves.
Establishing a relationship with our inner self and understanding consciousness helps us deal with the fear of medical lack or unrelenting viruses, panic, and stress, boldly being aware of our truth. Stepping into our divine identity helps us live a more peaceful, blissful life even among the outer chaos.
“A thousand may fall at your side and ten thousand at your right hand, but it shall not come near you, for He will deliver you from the snare of the fowler and the deadly pestilence. He will cover you with his pinions, and under his wings, you will find refuge; his faithfulness is a shield and buckler. You will not fear the terror of the night, nor the arrow that flies by day, nor the pestilence that stalks in darkness, nor the destruction that wastes at noonday.”
In your book, you talk about one of the most prominent delusions of this modern world: that happiness and satisfaction come with a higher rank, fame, or money. Share your insight.
People are so blinded by the worldly pleasures that they spend their whole lives chasing materialistic stuff. They lose themselves in the race of achieving nothing but short-term happiness. To reconcile with inner happiness, we must believe in the real power of connection and magic of spiritual unfoldment.
One of the most prominent delusions of this modern world is that happiness and satisfaction come with a higher rank, fame, or money. They can buy you temporary gratification in the name of joy, but these are the weakest of all sources if you are looking for true happiness. If this were true, we wouldn’t see celebrities attempting suicides. There is nothing wrong in aspiring for material success, but being discontent and too attached with worldly possessions leaves us feeling powerless and empty.
Like Jim Carrey says: “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.” Likewise, you cannot buy peace of mind or inner satisfaction through worldly stuff. For that, you need to work on yourself, evaluate your inner self, and realize your actual worth.
The answers to more happiness, peace, and greatness are not to be found in the goals you’re chasing but by fulfilling our soul’s mission to help others. You can live a fulfilled life you dream about, not through working harder and for longer, but by reconnecting to the divine wisdom within to strike a proper balance in making money, maintaining health, and nurturing relationships.
Our new journey of life begins the day we realize our self-worth and discover our inner self. Certainly, the human body is more than just flesh and bones. We recognize its actual value on our journey towards self-dependency and self-actualization, reclaiming the inner peace and joy and the healing of mind and body through meditation.
How important is regular spiritual practice/mediation?
Spirituality or having a spiritual connection holds significant importance in one’s life and serves as a coping mechanism in stressful situations.
With the practice of meditation when we center and align ourselves with the source/spirit-self inside, pressing into fear and moving closer to the truth, our outer problems seem less real, and irrational fears vanish. The number one reason people seek yoga and meditation is that they are known for reducing stress and anxiety and putting the mind and soul at peace.
In my own experience and work with the clients, I have observed that being mindful can help us manage certain emotions, replace negative thoughts with positive ones, and improve overall happiness and well-being.
Checking our emotions throughout your day, taking a few deep breaths, and understanding that fear is an emotion like any other emotion, we can learn to manage stress more positively.
Prayer is another powerful way to reduce anxiety. When we cannot go to a communal worship service or gathering, we can pray for others, if not with others. Reciting the following short phrases of Loving-kindness meditation helps us tremendously:
“May all beings be safe.
May all beings be content.
May all beings be healthy.
May all beings live with ease.”
Meditation practices help regulate mood and psychological well-being, reduce panic disorder symptoms, improve your focus and attention despite distractions, and the ability to work under stress.
Through your expert coaching, you work together with the clients to strip away the layers of conditioning, fear, doubt, guilt, and limitations from your soul. Share a few success stories.
Spiritual life coaching helps clients re-discover their strength. It helps them heal from past traumas and reconnect with their identity. It boosts self-confidence, enhances self-love, and helps them find the answers. It motivates them to live empowered, joyful, grateful, and peaceful lives without any preconceived notions, judgment, or bias.
The most common challenges people seek help with are about regaining lost confidence and self-esteem, developing self-compassion, emotional regulation, procrastination, lack of productivity, stress, relationships, conflicts, work-life imbalance, finding life’s purpose, among others.
What clients are saying:
When I first started my coaching sessions with Vibha, I was not in a pretty place. I was frustrated that I couldn’t get to where I felt I deserved to be in the company I work for. I began doubting my own self-worth and capabilities. I was angry because I felt that I was being held back and pigeon-holed into a level below where I aspired to be. And, I was sad because all of this was making me feel as if I was never good enough, no matter what I did. All these career-driven emotions were also spilling over into my personal life as well, tainting everything. I was constantly on an emotional roller-coaster. In the early weeks Vibha had me focus on building my confidence back up. She had me list things I was good at, and journal about what I was very confident about and what I didn’t feel confident about. She stressed that I do these activities so that when I focused on confidence, I did so with positive energy and intent and when I focused on those things I wasn’t confident about, to do so with neutral energy, stressing that we get back what we put out to the universe. It was not something I had really paid much attention to before. She also gave me some links to further these learnings.
In these early weeks, I must admit, I questioned if Vibha was “the one for me”. She put a lot of stock into energies, vibrations, affirmations, and the like. Although I have meditated daily for quite some time, there is science and facts around how that works and the benefits it brings. I didn’t know if the rest of this “new-agey, hippy-dippy stuff” was for me. We continued our work. We worked on emotional regulation, but unlike others who tried to get me to deny negative (“bad”) feelings, Vibha asked me to allow myself to accept whatever I was feeling, letting go of it and taking my power back when I was done. This attitude resonated more with me than blocking or locking those emotions away. It also validated that it is normal and ok to feel sad, bad, angry – we just shouldn’t dwell on it and live in that state, because that puts us into a state of negative energy. We discussed my goals, and she asked me to journal about “my perfect job”. Months later, reading and revisiting this entry daily and working to manifest this opportunity, I had many insights and lots of clarity about my ideal role. Not only that I am pleasantly surprised to see how I am being presented with the new opportunities at my current company. All of a sudden I am more visible to the upper management for better roles and opportunities. Also my relationship with my boss has improved. We also focused on listing the things I am grateful for, “weekly wins” and in general continued to focus energy on the positives in my life. She also asked me to list out what contributes to my misery at work and what I could do to address that. The benefits from this activity were 2-fold: one, I learned that if I cannot change it, I had to just let it go and focus on what I can change, and two, that the misery was really rather minor in comparison to the big picture of everything in my life. In doing all of this she was setting the groundwork for me to learn to be kinder to myself; to treat myself with more self-care, as I would act towards a friend. This helped me to reverse the negative self-talk and energy and replace it with more positive, optimistic messages.
Six months later, I am in a much better place. I am empowered, believing in myself and my power and not letting others define this for me. I am stronger and more confident than before. I am stable and calmer; I am focusing on me and my well-being (meditating, exercising, etc.) rather than purely on achievement. I am happier and more content; if this is the highest role-level I achieve at my company, so what? I am bringing value to those I interact with and I am appreciated by those people. I enjoy what I do and do it to the best of my ability. I have enough income to pay my bills and have a job I can work, even in these unstable pandemic times. I have a loving, supportive family. I have my health and the health of those I love. I have the most important things in life. I am truly rich. I am focused on what really matters in this lifetime. I am a better version of me than when I started. And oh, I’m now a true believer in all this “hippie dippy” stuff because I have seen first-hand how I have manifested some of the things that have happened to me (“out of the blue”) in the past few months!
What’s the worst that can happen in one’s life around the stress, limiting beliefs, self-doubt, and negative mindset ( any other issues we worked on together) if not addressed?”
The worst is that you get so bogged down in the stress, limiting beliefs, self-doubt, and negative mindset, etc… that you:
- Don’t see the true value of what you already have
• You give up/ squash your potential; you stay “stuck”/ stop trying to better yourself
• You become mired in your own head’s misery
• You stop reaching out to others – we are all islands, but there is no limit to the number of bridges we can build.
• All of the above leads to personal relationships & health issues, and then none of the rest of it matters!
- Frustrated – that I couldn’t get to where I felt I deserved to be in my company And, with my boss specifically, he was expecting me to solve problems he couldn’t with no resources.
• Doubting myself/ my self-worth, my capabilities – because I assessed for multiple roles that I thought were a great fit for me, yet they always chose someone else.
• Angry – because I felt that I was being held back/ pigeon-holed.
• Sad – because it was all making me feel as if I was never good enough no matter what I did.
• Hopeless – because it seemed nothing I was doing was making a difference
And, this was all spilling over into my personal life as well, tainting everything. I was constantly on an emotional roller-coaster.
I am now:
- Empowered – believing in myself and my power and not letting others define this for me.
• Stronger – I put the “er” on the end because even in the face of adversary I was staying strong and fighting on. But now I am strong-er and the insight is I don’t need to “fight” anyone any more. If I focus on what I need, the rest will follow.
• Calm/ Stable – I have widened my perspective. I am focusing on me and my well-being (meditating, exercising, etc.) rather than purely on achievement.
• Happy/ Content – if this is the highest role-level I achieve at my company, so what? I am bringing value to those I interact with and I am appreciated by those people. I enjoy what I do and do it to the best of my ability. I have enough income to pay my bills and have a job I can work, even in these unstable pandemic time. I have a loving, supportive family. I have my health and the health of those I love. I have the most important things in life. I am truly rich. “The most valuable jewels I can wear about my neck are the arms of my children/ grandchildren.”
• Focused – on what truly matters most in life.
What have I learned this past week?
- Health is everything/ the most basic. Without it, nothing else matters and everything else has a secondary focus.
• Being kind to others is so important. You never know what battles others are fighting. (We could all use a good reminder of the “Golden Rule” these days!)
• I need to always – even in stressed/crunched times – focus on myself and what I need first. This helps me bring my best self to whatever/ whoever else I deal with and then I can be most effective.
• I need to be kinder to myself. I’ve endured a lifetime of being put down and have internalized so much of this that it is a struggle every day to overcome this; I have to constantly remind myself of this one and work on it every day.
• That it’s ok to feel sad. Continue to work to feel the sadness, but don’t dwell on it. Experience it, let it wash over me and be done. No dwelling. “Emotional regulation” is spoken of as if this were a thermostat that you can turn up and down at will. We are not machines, we are humans, and feelings sometimes get the better of us, and that is ok, that is expected. It is not “bad” or “weak”.
• To continue to believe in myself.
• That I am extremely blessed – maybe not in material wealth, title, but am truly blessed in the things that matter such as the love of family, friends, inner peace, health.
Another client says:
By working directly with Vibha, I’ve been able to develop significantly both in my professional and personal life. We worked together to deeply assess my strengths and weaknesses and how I can leverage them in challenging work situations and day to day life. Vibha’s also enabled me to see the power of my own perception and attitude. Before working with her, I considered myself a “realist” not realizing the weight my inner thoughts and feelings have on any given outcome. With this switch in mindset and the plethora of new tactics Vibha has armored me with, I’ve been able to strengthen the relationships I have with my colleagues, establish a more meaningful and trusting connection with my boss, and drastically improve upon my self-confidence. Most significantly, by working with Vibha, I’ve learned how to put my needs and self-care as my first priority without sacrificing productivity and work quality.
In my time with Vibha, I’ve learned the power of my own mindset. By thinking pessimistically or harboring feelings of self-doubt, you’ll only see negative results. Even if you did achieve a win, you would be blind to it because you’re not actually allowing yourself to recognize the positive within and around you. A cycle ensues – negative thoughts become negative actions which become negative results which incite even more negative thoughts. By shifting your mindset, you’re creating a positive cycle and enabling not only yourself but those around you to achieve positive outcomes.
Share your vision for 2020.
My vision is to connect, invite, and support as many women as possible and provide them a safe, nurturing space to share, care, grow, and expand the circle of like-minded women. And create more self-help and support groups, fostering a caring, helpful, and engaged community where every person participates and contributes with inspiring thoughts. As a chair, I want to be there for all women who need support and networks, irrespective of their economic, social, cultural background.
Interview by Jules Lavallee